It strikes me, however, that, whatever the reason they choose to see me, they do so out of an intense desire to do well, to meet expectations, to rise to the challenges placed before them. Their parents may be the catalyst for their attendance, but the students need to show up each session and push to engage with the complex and confounding material. This is strong evidence that students are innately driven by a desire to learn. 

If students want to do well, then I need only provide the opportunity. If they wish to meet expectations, then it is my duty to create an environment that supports that. Students want to do well. My goal is to help them reach their goal! 

As a classroom teacher, for whatever the reason, I didn’t fully appreciate the implications of the desire of students to learn. I fell short of my potential. Now, as a tutor, I devote myself to that work. I open doors for students to achieve in the way that they wish to. I help them, surely, but it is not my learning that is being assessed. *They* do the work, I just set the scene. 

Let’s work to change the lens through which we view education. Rather than asking “Why don’t they get it? Don’t they want to?” let’s reframe the question to “I know they want to get it. How can I help them?” Let’s change our structures and systems, to the extent possible, to facilitate student achievement. It’s their grade, let’s help them earn it themselves! Great students deserve great support. Let’s support our students’ goals.

Physics and Math are hard! Ask your teacher for help if you need it. Ask me if you need more.

Before midterms this year I took on several 8th graders who were prepping for their science exam. These were great students who’d learned too late what it took to succeed at their particular campus. They were behind, but were making great progress. More importantly, they understood the changes they’d have to make to find success in the future. One student, a particularly bright boy, told me he was simply exhausted. As it turned out, he saw 4 tutors per week on top of his regular school workload, extracurriculars, and other appointments. He was often studying until 9, then collapsing into sleep, with little time for leisure or reflection. Truly, he was burning out. 

Imagine the toll that grueling schedule would take on an adult, let alone a 13 year old! This student may be an exceptional example, but my experience shows he’s more and more becoming the norm. The formative teen years are important for more than for academic work. From my perspective we are doing our students a disservice by filling their days with school activities.

This may sound odd coming from an educator who is often called in after school to help but I think there’s a better way. Let’s step back from the relentless pursuit of grades and move into a more targeted approach. What classes need intense focus and long hours? Where can we accept less “achievement” and buy some time away from school? Trading an A for a B and some joy may well be worth it in the long run.

Physics and Math are hard! Ask your teacher for help if you need it. Ask me if you need more.

Grade pressures, social pressures, and the expectations of their teachers and parents can keep students feeling buried, lost, and worried they’ll never get it. 

I see teachers who make the anxiety worse. In some classrooms, wrong is never acceptable and intense pressure is the lever to wedge knowledge deep into student’s heads. I disagree with this approach. Want to teach a child something is bad and worth doing only under duress? Force them fail over and over again in a room full of peers in a toxic culture of perfection above all else! I sympathize with the teachers. I taught this way, too. Now that I’m on the outside and can see the effects, I never will again.

In tutoring I help my students understand that learning is a million failures and one success, that learning is a process in which they’ll get it wrong until they get it right, that learning by looking for the right answer is the wrong thing to do. I want them to have a safe space to fail and a helping hand to lift them up. Parents can help here, too. Tell your kids that their goal is progress, rather than a certain grade.  We should all work for process over product.

My motto is “Great students deserve great support.” Let’s all support our learners rather than focusing on their wrong answers. In learning, we’re all wrong until we get it right. Let’s treat students the same way.

Physics and Math are hard! Ask your teacher for help if you need it. Ask me if you need more.